You can read as much as you can get your hands on about older child adoption, but living it is different. It has been for me, anyway. Every time we feel we're taking a step forward, it seems like we take five back. We had a pretty good "honeymoon" period, and now life is extremely challenging. Every day is a roller coaster ride. Leul is a hurt child, and he's grieving his losses in difficult ways. This post pretty much nails it. A lot of his negative behaviors are directed in particular at me and other women. Leul's behavior is challenging all of our love, patience, knowledge, and creativity. There's just not one easy thing about it. But we know it's a season. Things will get better. We would appreciate your prayers in the meantime!
Leul is doing well in school. He's reading books and is doing some grade-appropriate math work. He even has his first spelling test today, which he actually seems excited about. He's also playing soccer and has his first game this Saturday.
Myles is doing okay with having a big brother. He likes having Leul around, but it breaks his heart to see his dad and Leul spend time together without him. Oh, the tears!
Please keep praying for us! And I'll try not to let another five months go by without an update. :)
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I'm so glad you are updating again. I'm also glad Leul is doing well in school and getting involved in activities. We will be praying for wisdom and patience for you and Chris for each situation you encounter with Leul and also for him to experience healing from the things he has gone through! We love you all very much. You are awesome parents.
Dawn I know first hand how hard it is to bring home an older child and attach. It's an intricate dance and one that is years or a lifetime long. But, if I had to tell you anything I would re=emphasize that this IS a season. It's NOW. In 6 more months, he will be different, and then again 6 months and 12 mo after that.
Intentional parenting of him, committed to the caring for him even if not feeling the feelings of love for him is what will help him heal. And the doing and praying will bring you through. I'm adding you to my prayer list and am here for email or phone or anything that could help. I have ears to listen and prayers to send.
Hang in there Mama, it can get better and he can heal. PRaying for patience and courage and perseverance and caritas.
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